What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee.
– Psalms 56:3
It’s sure been a long 9 months, hasn’t it?
I’ve been there..
I remember by the last few weeks of my first pregnancy, my belly felt far too big for the rest of my body, my back was hurting like mad, I was still facing on-going nausea, and I was just completely over it!
I wanted this baby out, like right now, and there wasn’t anything that anyone could say that would make me change my tune..
…until of course, I was reminded of one tiny little detail… Labor.
Ohhh right! I actually had to do some work in order to get her out.
Well, as my due date became closer, all I could think about was labor, and to be honest, I was scared beyond words. I mean, you see it on TV, you hear about it from women who have gone through it, you begin to imagine it yourself, and every single opinion points to the same conclusion… OUCH!
Well you see, I’m not the kind of person who just gets scared about something, and then moves on.. nope.. I’m the kind that thinks about it, analyzes it, researches, goes over every different scenario in my head, and then just completely dwells on it. And so that’s what I did about labor. It became a big source of stress for me. I mean, obviously there was no way out of this, no going back.. I was going to have to face this ginormous pain, and it was going to really SUCK!
..don’t you just love how there’s a scripture for everything?
Well, one night before bed, I decided that I had wrecked my brain enough with all of my thoughts, so why not try a different route? I opened my Bible and there it was, like a beautiful little gift from Jesus..
A woman when she is in travail hath sorrow, because her hour is come: but as soon as she is delivered of the child, she remembereth no more the anguish, for joy that a man is born into the world.
– John 16:21
I love this scripture.. it was exactly what I needed to put everything back into perspective. I mean, no it didn’t tell me the words I wanted to hear– “Everyone was lying to you.. Labor won’t hurt at all, it will be easy and enjoyable and a piece of cake!” That’s what I was hoping to find in there, something that would just magically take the mountain away, and make everything all peachy keen. But that’s not usually how The Lord works.. at least, not in my experience.
You see, instead of just removing our trials, He gives us the strength, wisdom, and courage to endure them. The whole point of our trials is to perfect us, to refine us, to draw us closer to Him. If the hard times were just taken away, how would we grow?
I think this scripture says a lot.. about labor, motherhood, and really, life as a servant of Christ. There will be times where we have to endure struggles in order to obtain the greater treasure. But because of the love for our children, and even more so, our love for Jesus, we will be able to overcome.
So, yes, labor sucks, it hurts, it’s not fun.. I could sugarcoat it for you, but there’s no point.
But although it’s hard, it’s also amazing! It’s one of the most selfless things we do for our children. We go through the pain, so that they would have life!
Now, let me start by saying I don’t think labor is even close to as amazing of a sacrifice as what Jesus did for us.. I mean, obviously there is no comparison.. But… I do feel like there are similarities.
Jesus went to the cross and endured the pain in order for us to gain eternal life.. Do you think He was looking forward to it? I don’t think so – ( Matthew 26:39 says: And he went a little further, and fell on his face, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt.)
So why did He do it? Because He loved us that much!
I think we feel the same way about labor.. we don’t want to face it, we dread it, wish to avoid it, but because of the love that we have for our new precious baby, it makes it all worthwhile!
Like the scripture says.. we won’t remember the pain anymore because the joy of our child being born will overshadow it all!
I used to think that childbirth was a punishment because of what Eve had done, but when we take a closer look, I think we will see that in it there lies a beautiful blessing. Being given the chance to endure such pain for the ones that we love, well there’s real beauty in that..
I think it allows us to have a better understanding of what Jesus did for us. It helps us to see how difficult it must have been for Him to face the cross, knowing what He would have to endure. By going through labor, and the challenges that go along with it, we are much more able to appreciate His sacrifice, and His love for us.
As moms, we are going to have to sacrifice a lot for our children.. our dreams, our plans, our wants.. Labor is really just the start. I think in a way, The Lord may have designed it this way so that when those times come that we have to put our children’s needs before our own, we would be ready and experienced in it.
So if you clicked on this article hoping that I would have some awesome tips for avoiding the pain, or maybe even revealing a very well kept secret about how labor doesn’t actually hurt, then I may have let you down. I don’t have either of those, but I do have this truth..
By going through labor, The Lord gives us our first lesson in being a mom.. learning to put our child above ourselves. We learn that yes, being a mom is really really hard sometimes, but it’s also really really amazing. And all of the less-amazing things that we will have to face? Well they’re so much more than worth it for our children!
And here is one more very important truth that you need to remember.. in those difficult moments, The Lord will never, ever, ever leave you alone! Look to Him, He will be right there holding your hand through it.
If you’re scared, that’s okay, I’m almost certain that every woman who has gone through it was scared too.. But you know what? The Lord cares, He cares so much, and I know He does not want you to face this mountain on your own. So just cry out to Him. Ask The Lord to give you the courage to face it, the strength to endure it, and the faith to know that He will help you every single step of the way.
Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord.
– Psalms 27:14
On our own, labor can seem like this impossible, overwhelming task, but with Jesus, it can become a beautiful time for us to seek Him, appreciate Him, and completely rely on Him.
Look into His face, take comfort in His peace, and rest in His precious, enduring love.
..When my heart is overwhelmed: lead me to the rock that is higher than I.
– Psalms 61:2
So dear mommies, don’t be afraid.
No, labor really isn’t fun, but it’s also not the worst thing either. When those fears and worries start to creep up, just remember that beautiful, amazing, God-given blessing that you will receive. The trial will only last but for a brief time, but being a mommy is forever.
Did labor cause you a lot of worry and anxiety?
If so, what helps you to find courage and peace?
Let me know in the comments.
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
– Proverbs 3:5